Don’t Be Confused! 6 Differences Between the Ones Who Like You And the One Who Will Keep You
Not everyone who likes you will keep
you. Some men are out only to have a feel of you and then vanish into
thin air. These are signs to tell who will stay and who will run.
If you’re like most of us, no matter
what relationship you are in, you’re likely to think at one time or
another that you’re with the one. As much as we’d like to follow our
hearts however, finding the one is more than just a matter of strong
attraction.
It’s important to make sure your heart
and your head agree if you are spending the rest of your life with
someone, so it’s vital to sort out the qualities that make someone worth
spending your life with. Overall, the biggest indicator is when someone
is truly selfless, invested, and interested in who you are and what you
want. The following points will help you make that distinction, and are
qualities anyone should value when looking for the one.
1. Attention Vs Care
One big difference between someone you
like and someone you should stay with is paying attention to you, versus
caring about you. Any healthy romantic relationship means that the
other person should pay attention to your desires, likes, and day-to-day
schedule. However, when somebody really cares, there’s a difference.
Someone who listens to your favorite songs just to get to know you
better, for example, is somebody who cares about you and isn’t just
paying attention for the short term benefits.
2. All Talk Vs All Action
It’s easy to have feelings for people
who are smooth talkers. It seems that they know just how to appeal to
your insecurities and hopes. However, when you’re with the one who is
really interested in you, you’ll find that actions speak louder than
words. Especially when you have disagreements and ask your other half to
change the way they treat you; words promising to make changes are
nowhere near as important as active steps. When you find someone who is
willing to put in the effort and make real decisions for your best
interest, keep them.
3. Hearing Vs Listening
Another difference between a
significant other and a significant other who could be the one, is how
they listen to you. If your significant other appears to listen to you,
but rarely understands what you’re saying or makes changes, they may
just be hearing you instead of listening to you.
4. Interest Vs Investment
Another way to recognize the one is how
interested they are in you. Anyone you date is likely to show some
amount of interest in your passions and career, however the one will be
truly invested in everything from your relationships, to how your day
goes. You should always seek out people who are truly invested in you,
and want to see you be your happiest. If you’re going to be with someone
long term, it is crucial that they are not only interested in you, but
invested in you.
5. Concerned Vs Involved
Another way to measure whether you are
with the one, is to consider how involved they are in your life. Someone
who sees themselves with you for a long period of time will not just
concern themselves with your life and family, but will look for new ways
to be truly involved. When your significant other moves from learning
the names of your relatives to cracking jokes with and looking forward
to seeing them, you know you have someone special.
6. Thinking For You Vs Thinking Of You
Another way to sort out whether your
relationship is the right one, is to consider whether they think of you
or for you. An involved, concerned significant other will offer you
advice, give you feedback, and be honest about their opinions. However, a
love interest who offers cutting criticisms, and makes you feel less
confident is a sign that they are thinking for you and not about what’s
best for you. Always try to find those who are honest about what they
think, without manipulating you or shaming you into doing what they
want. When you’re with the one, it should always be obvious that they
want what’s best for you, not what’s best for them.
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